11 Tips To Happiness and Meditation
Each day I encounter many things that inspire me to share what I
have learned. When people ask me what I do, and I reply "spread
happiness", the next question is usually, "what does that mean?"
It means I encourage people to look within themselves to
discover their natural, inherent joy. Our natural joy doesn't
judge, doesn't put conditions or goals on our happiness, and is
content today, as-is. So here are a few tips to happiness!
1) Forgiveness. We must forgive to truly enjoy
life, and live life free of sorrow. When we hold a person
(including ourselves) in a position of anything less than love, we
carry that with us, and it effects all aspects of our life. We
carry it into our other relationships unknowingly. If we are
holding a grudge against someone, that frustration and anger
affects others we come in contact with. It changes how we
perceive our life, and all that is in it. It binds us and holds us
back from truly loving another fully, and loving ourselves. I once
heard Deepak Chopra say, "It is like holding your breath. You
eventually suffocate". Enough said.
2) Non Judgement. To be truly happy, we must
release judgement against others and ourselves. This can be
challenging, as most of us were taught about judgement at a very
young age. Remember "if you don't do your homework, your teacher
will be disappointed"? That is judgement. We carry that with us
into adulthood, and think that judgement brings us power. But
actually, it is the opposite. Judgement holds us back from seeing
the beauty in everyone and everything. People and situations change
every day. If we judge them, we never get the opportunity to
experience wonder and greatness, because we are holding ourselves
back and making false assumptions. If we live our life without
judgement and choose acceptance, we open ourselves up to love and
3) Self-acceptance. When we accept ourselves as
we are at this moment we leave room for miracles. (I am big on
trusting in miracles!) Only when we stop criticizing ourselves, and
saying 'I'll be happy when", do we open ourselves up to love. We
are perfect beings of love and light, no matter how we look, what
we are wearing, what kind of degree we have, or how much we earn.
We are perfect now. There is nothing wrong with having goals, but
the key is to enjoy the experience. If we stop ourselves from being
happy until we achieve something, we will never fully experience
happiness, as we will always be searching for the next goal to
accomplish instead of enjoying the journey!
4) Release the ego. The ego is insatiable and
never satisfied. It's as simple as that! The ego is always
working, never resting and never peaceful. The ego doesn't
understand that we are perfect beings of light and love. The ego
makes us mad, judges others, and experiences dis-satisfaction. The
ego is gluttonous. When we recognize that our ego is making
decisions for us, and not pleasant ones, we understand the thoughts
are not real, and we can then tell the ego to take a hike. Very
5) Put down your racquet! A.K.A….live your life
in defenselessness. When we live our life in defenselessness we
stop volleying a ball back and forth that is never going anywhere.
By constantly defending our name, we are adding fuel to a fire, and
building something full of negative energy. When you truly come
from your heart, and make decisions centered in love, you have no
need to wave your flag and defend your honor. You know who you are,
and you stand tall like a tree, never wavering, understanding that
all that matters is what's in your heart. We waste a lot of energy
trying to prove our point. Imagine if we walked away from arguments
and choose love and understanding!
6) Live from your heart. When in doubt, ask
yourself if your heart could talk, what would it say? When you live
from love, you experience happiness!
7) Be open to miracles! Expect them! Miracles
happen everyday and when we recognize them, they happen even more
frequently. As soon as we start expecting the best and stop
assuming outcomes, we open ourselves up to the wonder of life! I
call it getting in the gap. Let go of past conditioning, and see
life through the eyes of love.
8) See only love. When we begin to understand
that we are all doing the best we can with the tools we have, it
makes it much easier to forgive and accept, and see the beauty in
everyone and everything.
9) Trust! Know that everything in life is a
gift! When we embrace this way of seeing, we are comforted. Just
knowing that life is just a series of experiences--or accessories
as I call them--is simply put, Trusting! When we trust that
everything happens for a reason, and for our greatest good, life
flows effortlessly. And what used to weigh us down becomes light,
and transforms to love. Trust and have faith!
10) Be grateful! So often we forget all the
beautiful gifts we are given. When we are in a state of gratitude,
we attract more to be grateful for! Express your gratitude, let
others know you are grateful for their company, love, friendship
and companionship. A heart felt thank you goes a long way, and
feels so good to give.
11) Follow your heart! Live your dream and cast
fear aside! Remember, the only thing that ever gets in our way is
our own thoughts, so trust and believe in yourself, and the world
will mirror that back to you!
written from my heart with much love and many
Tips to Meditating
Last night I was inspired by a lovely woman who has attended a
few of my workshops. She shared with me that she would like
to add meditation to her day, but she 'can't meditate'. Well,
that's all I needed the hear (the word 'can't) to know it was time
to share a few tips. In my humble opinion, there is no right
or wrong way to meditate. As long as you are willing to try
to quiet you mind, you are giving it a go! If you put up
barriers and rules about meditation, you are sure to loose the
enjoyment and see it as a chore. And it's not a chore, you
are not being scored or judged, it is a personal vacation from your
conditioned self (the one we create), and a loving visit with your
true self (our inner spirit) and the Divine.
For me, the idea behind meditation is not to follow any specific
rules, it is to allow myself a break from the world we experience
outside ourselves. Any way you can find the time to do that
is meditation. It may mean a quiet walk without headphones in
nature, where you allow yourself just to listen, and ask the
clutter to back off for a bit. You'll tend to those thoughts
later. It may mean while you are washing the dishes or folding
laundry, you completely focus on the act of what you are
doing. You choose to be fully present, breathing in and out
slowly and mindfully, and excusing other thoughts. You may even
choose to have a mantra in your head while you do this. It is
up to you!
If you would like to sit and meditate in a quiet room, and
really devote some time to it, here are a few tips that help me,
and I hope they (or your interpretation of them) will help you!
(By the way, don't worry about time. If you can devote
just a few minutes to this, you are giving yourself a magnificent
1) Set up your space. If you have an alter, or table you
can use as an alter, set up this space with pieces that mean
something to you. You may choose things like: candles, books,
oracle cards, gemstones, photos, religious symbols, keepsakes or
some sort of aromatherapy. Have this area be devoted to your
2) Light a candle and say a prayer of intention. You may
choose to ask for assistance during your meditation, to help you
quiet your mind. Or maybe you just express gratitude for this
time of connection with the Divine, and your higher self.
3) Write down your intention. This is very powerful.
Gift yourself a special book in which you write down what you are
grateful for, and your intentions during your meditation.
Write down your intentions as though they have already happened,
and you are grateful for them. So if you intend to have a
peaceful meditation, you may write something like: Thank you for
this loving meditation I have received today. I also include
a mini version of my 'vision' board, or the things I would like to
see in my life. I write them as though they are already
here. And usually, they are!
4) I love gemstones and they hold great meaning for me, so I
hold the ones that I resonate with that day in my hand, and declare
their vibration and my vibration are aligned. You many use a
religious symbol, mala beads, a card or photo that has great
meaning to you. Whatever you choose, trust that it is the right
symbol for you.
5) Make an agreement with yourself to allow your meditation time
to be what it is. If thoughts or outside disruptions happen, it's
ok. Try not to become frustrated, acknowledge them and let
them pass. Try not to judge yourself on how much time you
devote to your meditation. Whatever it is, it is what is
meant to be that day.
6) Take a deep breath and imagine what it would feel like to let
all the thoughts in your head get together in a group, hop on a
cloud, and float away. Another visual I find helpful is to imagine
that my thoughts are weights on my shoulders. I imagine the
weights being lifted, one by one, and with each breath, I feel
lighter and lighter.
7) I then take my temperature (in my mind). How am i feeling
today? I may choose to imagine my chakras open and in
complete alignment. Or I may ask myself how much
happiness and joy am I allowing in today...and imagine that amount
increasing. You may choose a visual, like a cylinder. Imagine
it being filled with air (joy) and sand (what could be joy, but is
in the way!) Imagine with each deep breath, the air (joy) grows,
and the sand gets pushed out of the cylinder, leaving more room for
joy. Maybe you can rid the cylinder of sand altogether.
I promise you, you will smile with each breath, and feel lighter
and lighter, and more joyous.
8) Now that you have put yourself in a joyous place where you
feel comfortable, repeat a mantra in your head. As you repeat
your mantra slowly, (it can be whatever feels good to you that day)
focus on the breath coming and going through your nose. Stay
with that mantra and be kind to yourself. If other thoughts
come to mind, just acknowledge them, and let them go. They
are not in your way, they are just passing. Continue with
this mantra until you feel it fading, and allow yourself to
experience quiet and stillness. You may acknowledge the
prayer or intentions you have written while preparing for
your meditation, but just by writing them (or thinking them
before you begin), they part of your spiritual practice.
And now, you are on your way. Enjoy the stillness, trust